Everyone wants to be a Winner
Most of us are fascinated by the idea of
winning. It can be a sports championship or a drawing competition. Well, this
is very much normal for any person. However, we have reached in a different era
where we define ourselves as winners and losers. This is where the problems
start to crop up. We are here to understand the psychological aspects related
to the need of being a winner by all of us.
Outside Pressure
We all will agree that each one of us faces
the pressure to perform well & excel in various tasks of our lives.
Sometimes the family & many times teachers or friends expect us to be
exceptionally well in our work. Owing to such pressure we start feeling the
need of proving ourselves to the world around us. In this manner, we start
seeking constant acknowledgement of being a better version of our self.
Being a Loser
The ‘Loser’ the title has gained immense
popularity in recent times. We casually hear people calling other people loser.
While facing a situation where you are being labelled as a loser you must
ignore this negative remark completely. For example, Niki & Anya were good
friends. Niki had a good knack towards drawing & painting & on the
other hand, Anya had no interest in the same. Just because Niki enrolled into a
prestigious drawing competition Anya also followed her in the same. Anya could
not do well like Nikki when the results were out. While sharing the same news
with the rest of the friends, Anya faces a comment from a friend on a lighter
note that "Oh, you are such a loser. Look as Nikki how well she
performed." This remark damaged Anya's self-confidence deeply.
Fear of Defeat
One thing which bothers all of us is the fear
of facing failure. This is also a reason why we wish to win every game in life.
Here, one thing each one of us needs to remember that only one person can be on
top. Hence, your success & accomplishments should always not to be
quantified using an absolute benchmark. Even if you don't have a place in the
top three, your success is your own. We should never try to reach on top of the
ladder. All we should focus upon is the extent to which we excel in our work
& skills.
Being a winner is a great feeling. We are not
saying that you should try to accomplish the title of being a winner in life.
All we have to tell you is that if you don't reach the desired level you do not
become a loser. Everyone will have different journey & timing for reaching
to a spot which is best to their ability. Keep patience & passion in your
heart & keep the hard-work on forever.