Self Esteem or Ego…..What will you like to carry?
There is a very fine line between Ego & Self Esteem. We often
get confused between them & juggle between these two. Clearly Self- Esteem
is a must have quality & on the other hand Ego is something we should never
have. But the actual struggle knows which one you have. For this purpose, we
need to have adequate understanding of both these personality traits.
Ego:
We can safely say that the Ego is a perceived value/worth of self. One
with Ego will always understand, evaluate & assess the outer world with the
reference point of his/her self. We also perceive that the how we lead our life
or how we conduct ourselves is ultimate truth of the universe & is nothing
but ideal. Ultimately Ego stops us from evolving, improvising & progressing
in our life. Few obvious disadvantages of Ego are:
·
Take away
Compassion
·
Keep
people away from you
·
Restricts
growth
·
Blocks
true love from coming in your life
·
Makes you
irrational
·
Adds
unhealthy competitive behavior
·
Increases
greed
We generally misunderstand & consider our Ego as our
Self-Esteem. The basic difference between these two is humbleness. Ego will
give you confidence but make you blind about your limitations. It will
encourage you to put your self-worth ahead of relationships. We would never
like to be such a greedy, arrogant & self-centered person.
Self-Esteem:
The dictionary meaning of Self- Esteem is “Confidence in one’s own
worth or abilities”. Now as we know the definition, it is not hard to
understand the difference between the Ego & Self-Esteem. Here you will
certainly feel confidence but also will be realistic & aware of your true
strengths. Having right amount of self-esteem can help you garner many
benefits.
·
You can
choose to be yourself
·
Better
ability to accept disagreements
·
Elevated
ability to present your views when challenged
·
You
accept new challenges boldly
·
Less fear
of uncertainty
·
Do not
seek approval continuously
·
Higher
level of commitment
·
Better
social & personal relationships
Self- esteem has a clear distinction from Ego. Ego tells you that
you can do anything, no matter what. On the other hand Self- Esteem tells you
that you can do it because you have the right kinds of skills to do the task.
Self- esteem helps you in coping up with challenges of life. You should always
be on constant assessment of having right level of Self-Esteem for a happier,
secure & balanced life.