Why Do We Fight?
Disagreements
& misunderstandings have always been our biggest companions. On top of
these demons, we have our ego & false sense of self-worth. All these elements blend well & we end up in a place called a fight. Fighting with one
another has been a very normal part of our lives. We always find reasons to
justify fights & also keep digging newer reasons to pick up more fights.
We
all have been there. Also, most of us always think that the blame should be on
the other person. But, has it ever occurred to you that what will happen if we don’t
fight? Will life be any easier if we avoid fighting? Is there anything to lose
if we stay away from fights?
Let
us explore different dimensions of this scenario & see how we can improvise
the situation for our benefit.
Why
do we fight?
Fights
can happen for numerous reasons. Sometimes people carry a long due grudge or
prejudice & end up in fights & other cases, they lose their temper in
a split of a second. Whatever is the case, we still can always find out what are
the most plausible causes creating situations like these.
·
Misunderstandings
·
Disagreements
·
Conflict
of interest
·
Prejudiced
approach
·
Jealousy
·
Irritation
We
can have even a longer list of reasons but in a nutshell, these elements can
cover most situations. So, now probably you will be able to put any fight of yours
in one of these brackets.
How
do we avoid fights?
The first thing to avoid a fight is self-control. Yes, it is within you only. Please curb
down the urge to correct, argue, ridicule people around you. Next step is to
understand that each one around you or who meet you doesn't need to have complete or even partial agreement with your opinion. Having diverse
views & opinions is pretty normal. So, learn to live with it.
These
are few simple yet effective tips to save yourself from some ugly fights &
earn some peace of mind:
·
Stop
the argument\debate if there is no productive output
·
Think
twice before saying the truth on the face (especially bitterly)
·
Do
not make fun of others
·
Walk
out of a situation where people are acting stubborn\illogical
·
Never
use bad\curse words casually, it does harm a lot
What
will you possibly gain?
I
am aware that some people are a big fan of fighting. They consider that they need
to dominate any situation. I challenge these people to
reconsider this belief. If they will not understand the importance of peace
& empathy, how will they get them? Still, if you are not fully convinced,
these are few immediate & certain results you will gain if you decide to stay
away from fights:
·
Greater
respect from peers
·
Peace
of mind
·
People
will value you more as a person
·
Your the opinion will get higher respect
·
Your
advice & opinion will be considered smoothly
I
sincerely hope guys that my views & clarification will give you a fresh
perspective. We sometimes very casually adopt the habit of indulging into fights.
May or may not be physical though. But, having am aggressive conflict with
someone is never a good choice. So, behave & react wisely. Make more
friends than enemies & lead a peaceful life.