How To Deal When Your Kids Are Bluffing?

From making long stories about “how a bird came in and took their breakfast” to “I didn’t finish the lunchbox because of headache”, kids tell lies that are easy to catch (which is a good thing that they can’t lie). No matter how hard they try, parents always have a sense of bloodhound that always catches them. 

But this is just one sweet category of teenagers because there is another category of extra smart kids that put a poker face on and share incidents with minute details. These kids bluff their parents so that they can hide:

·       Why they were late from school?

·      Why their pocket money finished early this month?

·       Why they stay up late at night?

·       Why some of their stuff is missing etc.

How Parents Can Know If Their Kid Is Bluffing And Deal With It?

1. If your child is looking sideways, upwards, or downwards instead of your face then they are filled with some guilt. They are trying to pause in between while talking remembering or making up details is a clear sign of bluffing. Thus, you should confront them or play along, depending on what’s best for that situation. But you should not misbehave or abuse physically to teach them a lesson.

2.    If your child is touching their ears, mouth, or face while telling you about their story, it is a classic sign of a lie. If you suspect, go ahead and ask a relevant question and check for their reaction. It can be fear or a frozen face that might give them away. Once you are sure they are lying, make them sit down, and understand why they had to build up that story in the first place. Is there anything they want? Are they too afraid to ask for it? Is it something they want to do? The best solution here is to talk it out.

3.   Some kids start with a lie and eventually burst into tears. Now you think getting angry here is a solution but it’s the opposite. You should feel good that your teenage kid is not good at lying and got teary not because they felt bad or guilty but because they couldn’t keep up with their lie. In this case, you should forgive them and ask them not to do that again.

Conclusion

When kids bluff their parents, they become over self-defensive, changing the subject every time and fidgeting (showing hands and leg movements) while talking. Thus, if you caught them doing it, your best chance here is to be gentle with them. If you act out too, you can only expect a rebellious act from your kids. Thus, be patient and build trust with your kids so that they don’t even have to buff you ever again. If they did something or want something, they should always come to you and tell you rather than hide it from you or deceive you. Only a strong parent-kid bonding can bring that truthfulness in the relationship.