Be a companion not a Supervisor
Most parents suffer from some classic syndromes. We often feel
that our child is in constant need of our help & support. This is not a
scenario in most cases. The human evolution is a proof that our brain is
capable of managing situation beyond comprehension. Our favorite work is to correct
our kids & improvise whatever they do. I believe this is a generic
scenario. If you think you are an exception, Congratulations! You have won the
battle of parenting.
Supervision Freak
Many of us suffer from superiority complex. We feel that there are
things which we are best at & it is our rightful duty to correct our kids
while doing them. For example if the child is trying to create a science
project we attempt to put adult-like perfection into it. Basically we restrict
their process of brain development. Try to refrain from guiding them for each
& everything. Being attentive & being over-indulgent are two different
methods.
Companionship is Not Burdensome
Basically what we are suggesting here is whenever your kid turns
around for you; he/she should be relieved that you are there for him/her.
Instead many kids feel immense pressure from their parents of attaining
perfection & hence they detest their presence at various occasions. I am
not saying that they don’t need you. All I want to convey is as parents we
should understand when they need us & when they want us? Let them struggle
a bit under pressure situation. This will bring out a courageous side of
theirs. Of course as parents it should be our sole purpose that our kids become
independent as early as possible.
All this feels very ideal & good to know. However, we often
falter & get excessively involved in our children’s life. We want them do
well in studies, social life, sports & what not. But the thing is that they
have their own likes & dislikes. Also, their skills are different than
yours. Hence, as parents respect their space & try to occupy a spot of a
friend/companion instead of forcing yourself to be their supervisor.