Raise a Confident Child
Raising a child is probably the most critical task we
have on hand. Because simply it helps in shaping the face of the society in
future. Also, being parents, it is our duty that we raise them in the best of our
capacity. Here I am not just referring to all the materialistic aspects but
things beyond that. Some people call it mindful parenting but, in my opinion,
this is how parenting should be for all of us.
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Give them Love
Love has a miraculous effect on one’s personality.
People who are deprived of love develop numerous negative shades in their inner
self. Knowing the fact that they are loved & especially unconditionally
loved will give them incomparable security. This emotion security is the first
step to build confidence.
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Appreciation is the Key
People who don’t get adequately appreciated feel they have
low self-worth. This problem causes major issues in building confidence. I am
not at all saying that we should keep praising our kids. Not at all. Because
that will make them feel unnecessarily entitled & over-confident. All we
have to ensure is that we appropriately acknowledge their achievements & give
them a little positive push.
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Correct mistakes but Safeguard Self-esteem
Many parents suffer from this classic syndrome. They
feel that they must constantly correct their mistakes & make them
perfect. So, the first thing is to take out the illusion of perfection from our
brains. Your perfection can be someone else’s mediocre outcome also. Hence,
stop making efforts to make your kid perfect using your imperfect benchmark.
But, ensure you are vigilant enough to stop them from making bigger mistakes
& fall in a spot where they feel the need to hide their issues.
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Mistakes Happen, they should happen
Another important aspect of effective learning is to
make mistakes. This is a fundamentally proven thing that as many times you will
try things or new things your chances of faltering will dramatically increase.
But the positive side of this is that with each attempt you will gather
invaluable learnings. So, in case your kid wants to try their hand at something
new & you see them failing or struggling, this is a good sign. They will
come up the learning curve on their own & turn out to be a far superiorly
confident being.
Here we are exploring ways & means to raise
our kids to be confident in their approach. Some people will say that certain
aspects of personality are intrinsically weaved-in which cannot be altered. My
intention is not to alter the personality but to bring out what is within each
one us. We all have multiple elements & shades inside us. For different
reasons one part suppresses the other & people presume that oppressing shade
as our true personality. This exact thing we need to balance using correct
parenting methods & approach for the wellbeing of our kids.