Love Unconditionally
We all love our kids. Or let us be honest, we
all like to think that we love our kids. However, have we ever thought that is
our love passable for the child to be a secure & confident human being? The
answer lies within you. If your love is unconditional which means free from
restrictions, fears & stipulations it is adequate. As a parent, you should
never be conveying spoken/unspoken messages to the child which direct the child
to be somebody else in order to be loved.
Imbibing this
might feel a little confusing but both the parents can start working from a few
elementary aspects mentioned below.
Physical
Appearance:
First &
foremost, do not pass comments or light/funny remarks on the physical traits of
your child. It is very little he/she can do about the problem. Being a source
of shame for something they cannot control is the most irresponsible act done
by parents. We should not be making funny remarks on those chubby cheeks &
funny looking nose. These remarks work as a scar on their self-confidence for a
lifetime.
Behavioural
Acceptance:
Your kid has reached
to the world through you but not for you. You are allowed to nurture but not
own. Honour their thoughts, methods, choices, dreams & ideologies. Another
mistake parents commit is to change the behaviour of the child which is
fiddling with their personality. Your child will learn from his own mistakes,
your conduct & lessons learnt through experiences.
Offer
Respect:
One way to show
your child that you love them is to give respect. We all are rigidly raised in
an environment which believes that respect is an entitled trophy for the elders
only. This is a classic misconception which does nothing but harm to our kids.
So if you want your child to respect you unconditionally, you should do the
same.
Hear them Don’t
Just See:
Traditionally
families have conveniently ignored the existence of the kids in the house. They
were primarily observed for obedience, social compliance & physical growth.
This has to change immediately. They are just like other beings of the house
with less strength & superior innocence. Their thoughts & choices
should be taken in to account diligently.
Do not pass
Negativity:
Most of the flaws
in our parenting style have been gifted to us by our parents. In majority
cases, we unknowingly become replicas of our own parents. The rejection &
negativity which we received during our childhood, we pass it on to our kids
thinking this is normal. We should always be open-minded to introspect
& evolve since the day we become parents.
Parenting is a bilateral process of a
lifetime. We should never forget that what we will give to our kids will come
back to us & also be given ahead to their next generation. Love is such a
tremendously powerful tool which can make or break a person. Parents should
always bear in mind that their primary duty is to love & accept their child
the way he/she is. This is a necessary & robust foundation of this
beautiful relationship between a parent & kid.